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See, this is the problem with (couple) viewing. It’s something you’ve got to say, ‘Honey, you're just going to have to catch up because I can't wait.'”
His honey -- the other lone gazelle, the only other person his personal security protects (and vice versa), the partner he has worked to be better for, the patron of an expanding bee conservation project, his loved one, Angelina.
Photo: MICHAEL MULLER
“I'm telling you, even someone who's
hit the lottery has trouble sleeping sometimes,” Pitt says. “We all have our demons, the things we're wrestling with. We can spend a lifetime pushing them away
until we have to deal with them at the very end in a very scary, frightening, ugly way. Or we can start acknowledging those. That's pretty much where I see it now.”
“Our fathers leave such an indelible mark on us and that relationship is so, so vital,” Pitt says. “My dad had always said he wanted to give us a better life than he had coming from great poverty, and he did that. That in turn makes me think the same way: What do I have to offer that's better than what I had for my kids?”
Figuring out how he can be a better dad is something that's always "in flux," the actor acknowledges.
"It's a constant moving target," he says
When Pitt watches himself in movies now, he can see his father’s moves and mannerisms, and “that’s amazing to me because I'm certainly not conscious of it.” It doesn’t bother him, though “when I first found myself reprimanding my kids in a way my parents reprimanded me, that's the time I got freaked out.”
As Pitt's “Ad Astra” character goes from Earth to the moon and all the way to Mars and Neptune – and deals with raging monkeys and lunar car chases along the way – there’s a cathartic scene in which the usually reserved Roy cries. And in that moment, Pitt approached it as a son rather than a father. He really didn’t have to dig that far to mine his own feelings: “You can say the word ‘Dad’ and I'm moved,” he explains, touching his heart.
Pitt sees a thematic connection between his two current characters, mainly that “you’ve got to go through the Roy experience to get to the place of ease of Cliff,” he says.
Portraying heroes like these (Roy tries to save the world and Cliff inadvertently prevents an infamous tragedy) has been on Pitt’s mind more as he grows older: “
What am I representing to my kids? What could speak or mean something to them? Sure, I am more conscious of that in a way. (But) I don't choose with any grand design. I don't choose something till I finish the last one because you never know where you're at when you come out the other end. And it's always by feeling. What's interesting now, at this moment.”
Pitt looks back on his career and one "turning point" that proved to him early he could play such complex personalities was David Fincher's 1995 mystery thriller “Seven.” “Although I would go on to lose it many times, I had my direction,” Pitt says.
Netflix is on Pitt’s mind a lot lately, especially with one of his production efforts, “The King” (in select theaters Oct. 11, streaming Nov. 1), starring Timothee Chalamet, arriving right in time for awards season. “Ad Astra” director James Gray reports that Pitt is as devoted a filmmaker as he is an actor: During post-production on their space movie, “I’d get emails at 2 o'clock in the morning with, ‘Hey, what about this piece of voice-over here? Would this be cool?’ ”
Pitt might have been up anyway since he’s an admitted binge-watcher: The latest in his Netflix queue is “Mindhunter" Season 2. “That’s great,” says Pitt, who also has definite thoughts on “
Netflix-cheating” as a concept. “
See, this is the problem with (couple) viewing. It’s something you’ve got to say, ‘Honey, you're just going to have to catch up because I can't wait.'”
When he’s not in deep collaborating with others on a film, Pitt prefers to be outside on a bike ride or engaging in “artistic endeavors that are just all on me.” Not on his to-list is joining Twitter, where he’d probably have 5 gazillion followers instantly and also be a target for trolls. “I’m a dinosaur, man. I missed that one,” he says, smiling.
“I'm so much a believer in acceptance or striving for acceptance,” Pitt says. “I'm big on the stoic philosophers – it's amazing to me how little we've learned in 2,000 years. We're making all the same mistakes over and over again. It seems cyclical in that way.
“It's a truism that we can't control anything but our state of mind. I think that's how the T-shirt goes but I believe it.”