Wednesday, August 9, 2017

7 Work-Life Balance Tips Courtesy of Angelina Jolie

Life lessons as told by an accomplished jack of all trades.

By Candice Galek
Founder and CEO, Bikini Luxe@bikinigeek

As much as you might have it together, you might think that you don't have much in common with actress-turned-humanitarian Angelina Jolie. The Hollywood It Girl and frankly, my all-time girl crush, has won an Oscar, has been married to Brad Pitt and has tackled some meaty roles, after all.

But as it turns out, you might be able to relate to Jolie more than you think. The mother of six is juggling her role as a new single parent, as a working actress and a volunteer. And apparently, she's really nice.

Here are seven things that one of the most sought-after actresses has to teach us:

1. Life is short--keep it full.
Jolie's life is bursting at the seams with acting, directing, humanitarian work, parenting and guest-lecturing on women's rights at the London School of Economics. Just when you don't think you can do any more, there's always more to pack it in.

Remember, life is short--make the most of it by taking on what you want to. Don't let life pass you by because others may think that your plate is too full. Listen to your heart.

2. Sometimes, you have to just do your best.
Jolie recently admitted to Vanity Fair magazine that life after Brad Pitt has been challenging for her entire family. She said she's just doing her best. When things are going tough, remember that everyone, even the most gorgeous and talented of actresses, have their own challenges and struggles. You are not alone.

3. Children are the future--raise them well.
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt's children would have access to travel, experiences, private tutors and material things that normal children wouldn't. Yet the six kids are reported to be polite, kind, and normal.

No matter what your background or your income is, don't spoil your children. Teach your children empathy, give them experiences instead of things and show them that good manners are always appropriate, no matter how wealthy you are.

4. It's possible to rebrand yourself.
Formerly dubbed a wild child, Jolie has spoken in the media about experimenting with drugs, and has been reported to have worn a vial of Billy Bob Thornton's blood around her neck when she was married to the Bad Santa actor.

Yet she discovered humanitarian work in Cambodia, adopting her first son and kicking off a lifetime of helping others. The lesson here: It is possible to change your reputation and what you stand for if you work at it.

5. Take care of your health, because without it, you have nothing.
Jolie's mother lost her life to ovarian cancer when she was only 56 years old. After discovering that she was a carrier of the cancer gene BRCA1, she got a preventative double mastectomy and her ovaries removed. Jolie was applauded in the media for her brave decision of taking charge of her health.

She was also diagnosed with Bell's Palsy last year, and although it was successfully treated, it's a reminder that we all have to slow down and care for ourselves. You can work and have more money in the bank than you can count, but if you don't have your health, you don't have anything.

Remember that if you ignore your health for long enough, your body will retaliate.

6. Remember that everyone has doubts about themselves occasionally.
Have you ever questioned whether you're doing a good job as a worker/human being/business owner/parent/entrepreneur? Everyone has. Even Jolie, who has been touted as a super-mom, raising six well-behaved children, has had days when she has wondered whether she did a great job or an average one.

7. Be who you are.
Jolie has said in media interviews that she cannot sit still, and that she can't just lead a pedestrian life. She's spent most of the last year staying close to home, trying to be a good homemaker and spending more time with her kids. Still, adventure calls to her. She's said that she's all about making a difference and leading a bold life. Remember to stay true to yourself. You only have one life to live. Do it your way.

Me +1: Why Sometimes You Have To Make Time For Yourself As A Mother (Like Angelina)

By Danielle Perry 8 Aug 2017 08:31

Danielle Perry is a radio presenter at Absolute Radio, a band manager, DJ, podcaster and writer for Q Magazine. She’s also a new mum to baby Etta. Although life has changed somewhat, there is a common ground between everything and that’s what she’s going to be writing about in this new column, 'Me +1'. She’s not going to be banging on about sensory classes or Peppa Pig – but the way our interests, styles and passions shift throughout our lives and how it is possible to not lose any of your identity or fun with the impending feeling of being a proper grown up.

There’s been a lot of press about Angelina Jolie recently: her recent split with Brad Pitt and the breakdown of her family unit have, she says, taken a toll on her health. She revealed in her Vanity Fair cover story that she had suffered from Bell’s Palsy – damage to facial nerves that cause your face to droop - and has had to take some time out for herself. “Sometimes women in families put themselves last... until it manifests itself in their own health," Jolie, 42, said in the piece. It struck me immediately: she said she felt more of a woman and mother than ever before because she was now putting herself first occasionally and making sure she is well herself, both physically and mentally.

It’s a place many women find themselves in. Before you know it you are a wife, a mother, an employee, a boss, a sister, an auntie, a God-mum, a best friend, a home maker, a travel planner, a candlestick maker! Where did I go? Am I still very much in tune with the woman who attracted all these roles and relationships in the first place? Essentially, have I lost my mojo because I'm too busy looking after everyone else’s?

As soon as I read it I locked in with what she was saying and it's a practice I'm definitely going to try and put into action. A quick message round my other new-mum-friends reveals it is small pleasures they hone in on; pedicures, monthly massages, going for a run, a bath with a book…

Interesting isn't it that the first few replies were beauty based? I wondered if it was a personal fulfilment to be preened and sparkly, or a 2017 admission that if you look well-groomed and well presented on the outside that you're completely nailing this parent thing and no-it-hasn't changed me. I must admit, every day that I was at home when Etta was a tiny baby I would make a point of getting up and putting my make up on. Just a personal choice and I know I had quite an easy few months compared to others but that's just what worked for me. It definitely did help me feel a bit more with it. 

Having a bank balance like Angelina would of course help, LOADS - especially with the option of being able to afford an extra pair of hands, but that is for the lucky few. Organisation seems to be the key here. When writing the daily to do list give yourself a column too, buy a handbag with compartments where you can separate the Mary Poppins enormity of a woman’s handbag into some form of clarity. Think, plan, do. I guess that's the key? And I know, so easy to write but I have to start this chapter somewhere... The same goes for planning for the next day maybe too? One friend missed picking an outfit for herself instead of just throwing on whatever was nearest. It’s a common scene isn’t it – an immaculately, brilliantly dressed child and their mum still rocking that jeans and t shirt combo they bought in H&M four years ago, now with baby food just down the right-hand side (I’m completely describing myself here).

Trying to be superwoman is an easy hole to fall into no doubt and I promise this isn’t meant to be a ‘poor me, aren’t I busy’ column. To the contrary, I feel lucky that I’m so busy and I wouldn’t change it for the world but after reading her interview I felt like it rang home, that it is our responsibility to make sure we are looking after ourselves as well as our partners and our little compadres, and we will most certainly do a better job if we're calm, content and have everything under control.

I’m in the process of booking a winter holiday. I once flew to Bangkok on New Year’s Eve and it was the best holiday I’d ever had. I loved the feeling of waking up hangover free in a new country with an adventure ahead. Within 24 hours we were poolside with a Singha beer and a view I’d only ever seen on postcards. That is how I reset my energy and my mind – travel. Knowing that I’ve got something coming up, or planning the next one. When I get home tonight I’m going to actually sit down and punch in the credit card details for the flight. If I procrastinate any more I’ll end up in a soggy campsite in Dorset and it won’t be quite the dream I had in mind.

I’m also going to need a pedicure aren’t I for the trip itself, so best get going.

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 Thanks to Felicity

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