Wednesday, November 16, 2016





Random Fuzzies

From my previous post:

The events which led to the filing, i.e. that the children needed to stay with her, are still in place thru the legal agreement.  This time, they may have been "encouraged" to keep the filing in place so there won't be any pressure to rush the children's healing in order for them to move back in together.   In her 2nd Statement she said the "DCFS is now satisfied the safeguards are put in place that will allow the children to heal."  The filing is the safeguard.

They apparently agreed to other conditions including limits to what they can say while the agreement is still in effect and the children are still healing.


I have said previously that I believe all evidence indicates that things are fine between them.  The only time of tension was during the first few days when Brad still did not know what was happening and he thought Angelina's side leaked the abuse investigation because she was really serious about getting full custody. 

In other words, I believe that if the DCFS hadn't decided that the children needed to be kept away from Brad, Angelina would not have been forced to file.  And if the DCFS had decided earlier that the children had sufficiently healed to live with Brad, there would have been no need for the legal agreement and this would have all been over.  But...


During this time, they needed -- and still need -- to give the appearance of a divorcing couple.


So I think their next steps involved enlisting child psychiatrists and psychologists whose focus is to help the children heal towards Brad and supervise his first visits.  This time, the child psychiatrists and Brad are on the same side, focused on the same goal.  This is probably a step they would have taken on their own anyway just to be sure the children fully recovered, but they thought they could do it with the family already living together once the DCFS closed the case.


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A reader, neveragain (thanks!) shares that " there will be a Paris premiere this weekend and after that the London premiere on the 21, and the final one in Madrid on the 22. The promo is over after that."

MelodyHarmony (thanks!) confirms the Paris premiere for Nov. 20.


There was also this exchange between neveragain and another reader, Guest (thanks!).

Guest: "have you heard on the TV show in China Brad talked about taking a long vocation , seems like after the promotion for Allied wraps up he is taking much needed family Time."

neveragain: "Yes, it was during one of his interviews. Think after this is over we will not being seeing Pitt for a while seems he knows he has a lot of work to do regarding his family."


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MelodyHarmony (thanks!) shared this:

WWD

Pitt was absent from the premiere, not surprisingly given his headline-making battle with Jolie. Fellow cast member Simon McBurney revealed that both Pitt and Jolie had watched him perform in his show “The Encounter,” which is currently on Broadway in London.
“They came to see [‘The Encounter’] when it was on in London and we had a fantastic evening together,” McBurney said. “They are a fantastic couple and they were very, very happy and it was a real riot and we had a great time. So, you know, these things happen in life and the only thing I would say is that it must be very, very hard for both of them — it being so public. We all know that it’s difficult. Relationships are difficult. They require work and sometimes things happen. My heart goes out to both of them because I know it’s very clear that they love each other. What do you want?”


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Us has a new report.  This one is apparently designed to explain why the awaited custody battle hasn't erupted.  Note that there is no mention of the agreement or the supervised visits. 

Brad Pitt Is 'Crushed' He's Only Seen His Children Three Times in Two Months Since Angelina Jolie Split

An insider reveals in the new issue of Us Weekly that Pitt has only seen kids Maddox, 15, Pax, 12, Zahara, 11, Shiloh, 10, and 8-year-old twins Knox and Vivienne three times in the past eight weeks. “He’s crushed,” says the insider ...

Still, for the time being, Pitt has agreed to let the children continue to live with Jolie, 41. A Pitt insider explains he doesn’t want a battle with the Maleficent actress: “He wants to limit the fighting.”

Prioritizing the kids during this transition is also key. “Brad has been deferential on what’s best for them and limits their stress,” says a Pitt insider. To that end, he’s not ready to see them shuttled between households. Says a source, “You don’t just immediately create a new world.”

Pitt waited three weeks to see his children while they attended therapy. But as previously reported, during the few brief visits, claims the Jolie source, “the kids didn’t warm up to him.”

That’s painful for the hands-on dad. Despite the family’s nomadic lifestyle presplit, Pitt strived to make each house, well, a home. At their L.A.-area pad, he built a skate park for his homeschooled kids “and would get out and ride bikes with them,” says a source who worked with the family. For a move to London last spring, Pitt and Jolie picked “a super–kid-friendly” mansion with a pool and playground, says a source. Life with them was “total chaos,” Pitt said in 2015, “but so much fun.”

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I've written that I felt the DCFS may have been too strict during the 8 weeks that their investigation was open.  Although to be fair, they were focused on "investigating and preventing abuse" which per their guidelines meant keeping the family apart.

And asking the kids to recount all the times Brad yelled at them was not going to encourage them to have warm and fuzzy feelings for him the next time they saw him. 

Angelina may have previously had restrictions on discussing Brad with their children but now she is free to help them.  She will have the best child experts to guide her on what she should say and do.   Like I said above, they are now on the same team and working towards the same goal.  The healing from this point should progress more quickly and smoothly.


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I know the inevitable question is: how long will it take?

My best guess is for 5 of the kids, maybe just one or two sessions with a child psychiatrist who can then supervise Brad's first visit(s) and give everyone feedback on how to improve the next time around.  For Maddox, maybe one or two sessions more.

It looked like they thought they would be able to get back together after the original 3-week period was up on Oct. 20.   That would indicate that Angelina felt the kids were ready to live with Brad and just needed additional help from her and child psychiatrists to fully recover and strengthen their bond with him.  That was four weeks ago.  But Brad is busy promoting Allied so that could delay them by another two weeks. 

The DCFS's decision to close the case became public Nov. 9, so they should have been able to bring in their own child experts from at least that date.  That also coincided with the start of the Allied promotion, so Brad has not been available for much of the time.  But Angelina and the experts would have been able to work with the children while he was away so when Brad comes home after the Allied tour finishes, they should be ready.  It would then be a matter of helping the children "warm up" towards their dad.  As we've said before, the pace of emotional healing is hard to predict but I really think at this point it won't take more than a few sessions and visits.  Angelina is able to give positive reinforcement and there is no one stirring up past memories that upset them.  And this time, the schedule of Brad's visits should be a lot more lenient than it was under the DCFS.

So in practical terms, I think he should be having unsupervised visits by the 3rd visit with the 5.  Maybe by the 4th or 5th with Maddox.  If he is able to have 2 - 3 visits per week, then we are looking at maybe 2 - 3 weeks from when the visits started.


I do think everyone will have a Merry Christmas.


Perhaps that is why they did not specify an end date in their legal agreement -- because they feel it could end sooner.


-- Fussy

7 comments:

  1. "Think after this is over we will not be in seeing Pitt for a while seems he knows he has a lot of work to do regarding his family."


    Fussy, I understood that as Neveragain's oppinion, not as something they said on a TV show in China. Am I correct?

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  2. At the New York screening of Allied

    http://wwd.com/eye/parties/steve-starkey-talks-marion-cotillard-and-brad-pitts-chemistry-in-allied-10706503/

    Pitt was absent from the premiere, not surprisingly given his headline-making battle with Jolie. Fellow cast member Simon McBurney revealed that both Pitt and Jolie had watched him perform in his show “The Encounter,” which is currently on Broadway in London.
    “They came to see [‘The Encounter’] when it was on in London and we had a fantastic evening together,” McBurney said. “They are a fantastic couple and they were very, very happy and it was a real riot and we had a great time. So, you know, these things happen in life and the only thing I would say is that it must be very, very hard for both of them — it being so public. We all know that it’s difficult. Relationships are difficult. They require work and sometimes things happen. My heart goes out to both of them because I know it’s very clear that they love each other. What do you want?”

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  3. Fussy, as always, thanks for the update/photos.

    I reiterate he looks like he's dropped some obvious weight but he looks good. He looks a bit less guarded; tentative but nonetheless, better. I hope with all my heart that in fact an "off the grid" opportunity to further heal this family is coming and coming soon and for as long as they need it.

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  5. ”McBurney said. “They are a fantastic couple and they were very, very happy - So, you know, these things happen in life and the only thing I would say is that it must be very, very hard for both of them — it being so public. We all know that it’s difficult. Relationships are difficult. They require work and sometimes things happen. My heart goes out to both of them because I know it’s very clear that they love each other. What do you want?”

    And there it is right there. We want them reconnected yesterday! but we have to accept that it may not happen for a long while.....a very long while..... but I DO believe it will happen. They have something that's so rare and profound and extraordinary and it's been challenged and that is the operative word here "challenged." They've overcome and survived so much "together" that we know about and probably much we don't and this present challenge is a doozy. It's amazing how no matter who speaks about them from a personal place always hones in on how they love each other; how genuinely happy together they are and that's because it's real and that does not just go poof, or vaporize into the air.

    I'm beyond hopeful.

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  6. Fussy Paris premiere on Sunday 20th confirmed
    https://twitter.com/GQ_France

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  7. Thank you again Fussy for your wonderful blog. Its refreshing to visit after vile comment sites like Daily Mail where its destroy Angelina 24/7.

    You used the words 'child psychiatrist' and I wondered what that was by definition and found this: A child psychiatrist is a doctor who specializes in diagnosing and treating behavioral and thought disorders in children. A child psychiatrist uses his knowledge on many factors including biological and psychological factors, in order to devise a treatment plan for a child with behavior and thought disorders.

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