Thursday, October 13, 2016
If Maddox (and possibly Pax) missed the reunion, this may indicate just how badly Brad behaved towards him on the plane. That despite therapy he hasn't yet completely forgiven his father three weeks after the incident. And why Angelina had to have sole physical custody at this time.
Brad now knows just how traumatized his family was after his outbursts on the plane. That because of him, his family will have to undergo many hours of therapy to recover. He now knows he needs to work very hard to repair his relationship with his eldest son -- and possibly with his other children as well. Angelina may have already forgiven him, but the family can't heal until Maddox does.
It's also embarrassing for People to have been caught with a faulty source on a story they know is being widely followed.
A reader (Fiorella) asked if I thought the silence now was a good sign. I think until Oct. 20, no news is good news.
I've pointed out in various posts the signs they've given that indicate they both don't want to divorce. She said her hand was forced and the decision weighed heavy on her heart. Brad didn't want her to file and he was pleading with her afterwards that he would change.
And now they've both stated clearly they want their family to heal.
They may have a lot to discuss but it isn't in relation to her divorce petition because they have a prenup and he seems to understand why she wanted temporary sole custody. He has yet to file his reply to the petition.
Rather, the discussion would center on Brad's problems.
What needs to happen and what I believe is happening is Brad is working on the issues that drove Angelina to file. He is well-motivated to solve them and, to start, there are many programs on substance abuse and anger management available to him. A full rehab program takes about a month and even if he isn't severely addicted, a "steady recovery" takes time. Some people are able to kick their habits cold turkey and Brad may be one of those but he would still benefit from help "to identify high-risk situations and triggers, and develop relapse prevention skills to maintain sobriety."
Perhaps the DCFS believes 3-weeks is enough for him to show sufficient progress. The random drug and alcohol tests would help assure his family that he has cleaned up.
Another reader (delta02) pointed out that Angelina said she would never leave him if it was just a substance abuse problem. I think if he just got drunk or high and it didn't affect his behavior with the kids it wouldn't be a problem. But apparently, lately, it has made him more prone to outbursts -- initially just verbal and then on the plane it became physical as well. She believes substance abuse plus his anger management problem combined to make him volatile and aggressive. It's been a problem that has been building over the last few months. But now with the involvement of the DCFS, it was no longer entirely in their hands.
Brad needs to work on everything that contributed to his behavior on the plane. He needs to assure Angelina that it won't happen again. Because without his outburst(s) they wouldn't be where they are now.
The rest of the family has been tn therapy to help them recover from the trauma of the plane ride. I imagine there would be a heavy component of forgiveness there.
The DCFS also lined up family therapy for them with Brad. A healthy family environment is best for the children and unless their safety and welfare were really threatened, the DCFS would want to help them stay as a family.
And that is where I believe they all want to go.
Everything Angelina has said from the start points in that direction. She doesn't want her children to grow up in a broken family. She mentioned in the past that they would get anxious when their friends' parents got divorced. The children were the ones who pushed for them to get married. She and Brad don't have a problem with their relationship. Even after she filed they still professed love for each other.
To go back to what TMZ's Harvey Levin said, "“This is about Brad Pitt, weed, alcohol, his anger problems and how the combination of those things affect his interaction with their six kids...It is about the kids and that’s why she did it, that’s why she did it abruptly.”
So Brad needs to work hard because it all hinges on his progress. His family and the DCFS will be watching and waiting.
Posted by FussyKitty at 6:50 AM