Random Fuzzy Notes 2
Assembling the timeline was an interesting exercise. As I started gathering together previous posts, I would occasionally look at the original article. And I discovered that some of the "quotes" had been edited since I first read and posted them. That Brad's account to People had been repeatedly edited has been noted here and elsewhere but the edit of his "friend's" quote to the Daily Mail was perhaps even more revealing.
I think the timeline as a whole reveals the shifts in Brad's thinking, mood and temperament. Angelina's has been more or less consistent from the start: that she did what she had to do.
Since they were apparently not in direct communication at least for a while, they were effectively sending each other messages through their reps and their friends' statements.
So let's look back.
At the start, Angelina wanted to be clear about why she filed and wanted to reassure Brad about her feelings for him:
"Angelina reached her breaking point last week over Brad's consumption of weed and alcohol, and combined with what she says are Brad's anger issues ... his interactions with the kids created a deal breaking problem for her"
The final divorce decision was only made one week ago,” the insider tells Us ....“An incident took place and prompted [Angelina] to act and file.”
She still says Brad is the love of her life, and the decision has weighed heavy on her heart,” the source adds.
she would never leave Brad if it was just a substance abuse problem. The source says this is all about protecting their children.
The most notable part of Brad's response was that he was pleading with her that he would change:
He was committed to doing what he needed to make it work. He was open to counseling."Another insider added, "He is emotionally torn. Right now, he is devastated. He still loved Angelina and would have preferred they fight to make the marriage work. "
Pitt ..had been in counseling “to try to figure out how to make things better" “He was willing to do anything, change any habit, change any lifestyle, to do what had to be done to make this work."
On the subject of custody,
a "source tells PEOPLE Pitt will not likely accept sole custody, as "sole custody for either of them doesn't seem like what's best for the children."
"Brad thinks Angelina is a great mother," the insider says. "But he is also a great father. There is no way he is going to be absent for any part of his kids' lives."
After TMZ broke the news of the abuse investigation, Brad went public with his view that it was Angelina's side that leaked it.
"A source close to Brad tells TMZ, "He takes the matter very seriously and says he did not commit any abuse of his children," adding, "It's unfortunate that people involved are continuing to present him in the worst possible light."
But there was also a hint that he was softening on custody and understood the need for the children to stay with Angelina for the time being.
“He has cooperated [with the investigation],” the source says. “He certainly wants what’s best for his kids and for them to be in the best environment and he’ll do anything that will put them in the best position.”
Angelina is a good mother,” the insider adds. “Brad appreciates and respects her, and knows she’s a good mother. He knows that it’s important to do what’s right for the kids, whatever that is going to be. … These reports about abuse on the plane are exaggerated or fabricated.”
Perhaps his manager and/or his parents visited the kids and reported back on their emotional state?
A Brad "friend's" quote to Daily Mail was edited twice after I first read it. After initially taking a combative stance following the abuse leak, he backed down and became more conciliatory. This is another "quote" that is obviously a carefully worded statement so it is notable that it offers the view "they are (present tense) a 'solid family'".
'They are a solid family with two caring parents and a normal share of verbal disagreements like major households. 'Hopefully people can move on and leave them all alone to work this out.' Pitt's friend went on to explain that the actor has nothing negative to say about Jolie and continues to have a huge amount of respect for the mother of his children."
But the last sentence of the original quote (see below) which should have been taken out but was left in after the edit. shows where Brad, in a moment of pique, gave the tabloids two story lines they were happy to exaggerate and embellish: that Angelina's side was smearing him (which Us Weekly turned into a cover story) and that he was holding back from saying something negative (which In Touch turned into a cover story).
He is focused on the best interests of the kids right now, that is why he has remained silent despite the smears,' his friend explained, adding that Pitt wants his six children to feel good about both their parents.
Already deep in the hole, he dug himself deeper.
After this, there was a series of articles about how they both were "devastated" "in agony", "shattered", "torn up". There was a particularly strong push for sympathy from Brad and it may have contributed to Angelina's declaration that she didn't want Brad prosecuted and wouldn't cooperate with an investigation.
They had apparently already agreed on "Custody and visitation" even before the DCFS handed down its recommendations, but what was even more notable was "Temporary support for Angelina and the kids"-- because she did not ask for spousal support. And the only reason I can think of is Brad must have insisted. She does have mounting expenses --- from renting houses to paying the team of superstar litigators she had assembled to go after the tabloids -- and even if she can well afford them, it probably helps assuage Brad's guilt to insist on helping pay for their expenses.
From this point on they seem to have a unified message -- perhaps directed as much at the outside world as for each other -- that they both want their family to heal.
"We're told Angelina agreed with recommendation because her focus is to "heal" her family and her children.
(Brad) “has been absolutely devastated and heartbroken by the events of the past several weeks, both in terms of how those events have been wrongfully portrayed and how they have threatened to jeopardize his family’s ability to heal and move forward.
There is a lot they are supposed to accomplish during the 3-week period set by the DCFS' recommendations. That period expires in a little over a week. Brad should have had several visits, he should have undergone random drug testing, and Angelina and Brad should have had individual counseling as well as family counseling together with the kids. By Oct. 20, they should know if they're close to healing as a family.