Random Fuzzy Thoughts
People, with egg on its face after its earlier report was exposed as inaccurate, now concurs with Us on Brad's visit with the kids.
Since all seem to be in agreement that the Us report is correct let's look at it more closely.
They both agreed to accept the DCFS' recommendations on Sept 30 but it took a week before the initial visit could take place on Oct. 8.
We know that a therapist was present as per the DCFS guidelines but only "some" of the children were.
If it was a question of one or more of the kids being sick, the visit could have been postponed until all were well. The kids are home-schooled and it was a Saturday, so scheduling conflicts with school work could not be an issue.
It took them a week to schedule this first visit so every attempt would have been made to gather as much of the family together so that the therapist could make a sound recommendation for future visits. Recall that the the presence of the therapist was only required for the initial visit and "the therapist then has the power to either allow Brad subsequent unmonitored visits or insist on being present whenever he's around the kids."
So I assume that the kid(s) who were not present did not want to be with their Dad at this time. That despite therapy, they still hadn't forgiven him enough three weeks after the incident. And that means the kids likely to have been absent were Maddox and possibly Pax.
According to reports, the DCFS was told that Brad was "verbally abusive and physical" on the plane. His defense centered on denying physical abuse, but we can only surmise that what he said during the hours that he was "yelling" verbal abuse was far more harmful -- and with more lasting effect -- than any physical contact.
Brad would surely have heard from the kids who saw him what the plane ride was like for all of them. Even if they were not the target of his tirade, being stuck in a plane for hours with a parent yelling abuse and getting physical with one of their siblings would be very traumatic.
He was drunk for most of the ride and likely had a dulled sense of reality. That may be why he seemed to be in denial about the severity of his actions.
Whatever illusions Brad had about that plane ride -- his claims that reports were "exaggerated" or "fabricated" or that it was a "normal verbal disagreement" -- he now knows the gravity of the damage he inflicted. His entire family will have to go though therapy and counseling just to recover.
When Angelina said her focus was to "heal" her family, she was likely referring to healing the bond between Brad and the rest of the family. The problem was not between the two of them, in fact, it sounds like she may have already forgiven Brad. The problem is between Brad and the kids.
The kids that agreed to see Brad are probably closer to forgiving him. But Brad still has to work on rebuilding his relationship with them back to what it was before the plane ride -- so that they can forget the image of him on the plane.
And for Maddox he will need to work much, much harder. Maddox has always struck me as being the cooler-headed and calmer of the two older boys. At 15, he is the most intellectually mature, the one who would have been able to process deeply everything Brad said and did. And he was on the receiving end of Brad's tirade. His hurt and the accompanying trauma would run deep -- as we can already see. Even after Maddox forgives, Brad will need to earn back his trust and respect.
And this is on top of the work Brad needs to do on substance abuse and anger management to make sure that his behavior on the plane is not repeated.
Healing the family isn't simply a case of Angelina withdrawing her petition and all of them returning home.
What is clear is that healing will take time. They have all been in therapy with more counseling lined up and all those will certainly help. But the deepest, most sensitive wound and the one she is probably most concerned about is Maddox'. And it looks like Maddox is healing very slowly. So even if she withdraws her petition, it will be a while before they can all go home.
So what would the family's road map to healing look like?
The biggest hurdle is Maddox healing enough to forgive his father. Brad can keep having visits with the rest of the kids while Maddox continues to heal.
The next step would be if everyone is comfortable being around Brad on a regular basis -- they could then consider moving back home.
The final, long term steps to healing and rebuilding could continue with the family already back together.
Angelina and the therapist can help Maddox and the other children heal to the point where they are able to fully forgive Brad, but repairing the relationship back to what it was is a long road for Brad alone.
Brad Pitt has finally seen his kids since splitting from Angelina Jolie — get the exclusive details: https://t.co/4GGCdDsn2j pic.twitter.com/wBMDloZrsb— Us Weekly (@usweekly) October 14, 2016